I have carefully curated a collection of the best resources available. This list is ever-evolving and growing as research comes to light, new books are written, and websites are available.
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Carefully curated, this is by no means an exhaustive list. Please feel free to share your favorite websites and books here!
LGBTQ+ Student Guide
My Kid is Gay
National Council on Family Relations
Resources for LGBTQ+ High School Students
Tyler Clementi Foundation – Working to End LGBTQ+ Bullying
Safe Places for LGBTQ Young Adults to Connect
The Teenage Brain by Frances E. Jensen, MD
You and Your Adolescent by Laurence Steinberg
Age of Opportunity by Laurence Steinberg
Fire Child Water Child by Stephen Scott Cowan
The Curse of the Good Girl by Rachel Simmons
Enough As She Is by Rachel Simmons
Boys and Sex by Peggy Orenstein
Girls and Sex by Peggy Orenstein
Fourteen Talk by Age Fourteen by Michelle Icard
Adolescent Depression by Francis Mark Mondimore and Patrick Kelly
Is Your Teen Stressed or Depressed? by Drs. Arch Hart and Catherine Hart Weber
Crazy Stressed by Michael J. Bradley
Outgrowing Addiction by Stanton Peele and Zach Rhoads
Parenting the New Teen in the Age of Anxiety by John Duffy
Life Without Ed by Jenny Schaefer
“Mom, I’m Gay” by Susan Cottrell (covers faith and spirituality too)
Radically Included by Susan Cottrell (covers faith and spirituality too)
Is It a Choice? by Eric Marcus
This is a Book for Parents of Gay Kids by Dannielle Owens Reid & Kristin Russo
The Velvet Rage by Alan Downs PhD
God and the Gay Christian by Matthew Vines (covers faith and spirituality too)
Oddly Normal by John Schwartz
The ABC’s of LGBT+ by Ashley Mardell
UnClobber by Colby Martin (covers faith and spirituality too)
Soul Not Skin by Jen SluMac
How We Do Family by Trystan Reese
How to They/Them by Stuart Getty
Transgender 101: A Simple Guide to a Complex Issue by Nicholas M. Teich
Straight Parents, Gay Children: Keeping Families Together by Robert Bernstein
Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen by Allan Sadac
Transgender Teen by Stephanie Brill
Transgender Kids & Teens by Elijah C. Nealy
Parenting Your Transgender Teen by Andrew Maxwell Triska
Gender Identity Guide by Tavi Hawn
Embracing the Journey by Greg McDonald
Love Makes Room by Staci Frenes
The Secret by Rhonda Byrne
Mantras in Motion by Erin Stutland
The Clarity Cleanse by Habib Sadeghi
The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo
Untamed by Glennon Doyle
The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown
Finding Your Own North Star by Martha Beck
Super Attractor by Gabrielle Bernstei
The Universe has your Back by Gabrielle Bernstein
Raising Hell by Julie Ferwerda
Don’t Just Sit There, Do Nothing: Healing, Chilling, and Living with the Tao Te Ching by Jessie asya Kanzer
Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach
Brave Parenting by Krissy Pozatek
The 5 Love Languages of Teenagers by Gary Chapman
The Parallel Process by Krissy Pozatek (treatment)
Not By Chance by Tim Thayne (post treatment success)
Differently Wired by Debbie Reber
Teenproofing: Fostering Responsible Decision Making in Your Teenager by John RosemundUntangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood by Lisa Damour
VISIT THE TREVOR PROJECT WEBSITE
*Suicide prevention helpline for LGBTQ youth
US: (877) 565-8860
VISIT THE TRANS LIFELINE WEBSITE
VISIT THE NATIONAL RUNAWAY SWTICHBOARD WEBSITE
*Crisis intervention and referrals. National communication system for runaway and homeless youth.
VISIT THE RAINN WEBSITE
* National sexual assault hotline
VISIT THE GLBT NATIONAL YOUTH TALKLINE WEBSITE
*Talk to peers directly
VISIT THE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOTLINE WEBSITE
VISIT THE NATIONAL CHILD ABUSE WEBSITE
*Provides counseling and referrals to local drug treatment centers, shelters, and counseling services.
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I was searching for resources to be the best supportive mom I could be to my pre-teen (now teen) and found this amazing podcast! It was just what I needed! I knew I needed some guidance from a parent who had experience through a similar journey and Heather was there with perfect content and even talked with me personally through email. The community Heather has built through this podcast and Facebook page has given me the confidence to not be fearful through this journey but rather to embrace it and encourage my teen to be their authentic self!
~ Lauren Bo21, Apple Podcast
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~ S. Geidner
When I was Connor's age, I don't think Ellen DeGeneres was out yet. The world has changed so much since that time. I'm glad I'm alive to see it. I find myself cheering on parents like Heather who are willing to step out of their own comfort zone and reputations to stand by LGBTQ children and love us - out loud! This is such an important show [the podcast]. BIG LOVE for this courageous family in the Midwest! Yay YOU!
~ J. SluMac
Powerful, profound, so needed... What a breath of fresh air this show [the podcast] is. So many LGBTQ people, especially youth, struggle with the devastating impact of faith-based family rejection. Parents are searching for a better way. A way to love their LGBTQ child without compromising their faith. It takes opening what box you have God in - thank you for helping people do that! What a gift this podcast is!
~ R. Cottrell
I love your raw, real vulnerability. I am brand new on this journey and stumbled accidentally across your podcast on a road trip. I listened for 8 hours of driving and didn’t want to get to my destination because I wanted more. Using your own journey to help and support other parents is so brave and I am grateful to you and your family. Connor is so fortunate to have you ❤️
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This podcast is truly something everyone needs in the coming out journey. Listen in for a reassuring dose of Heather's loving expertise!
~ CandyMot, Apple Podcasts
This podcast was unbelievably helpful. The frank discussion and honesty -completely helped me begin my journey with my son and I have shared this podcast with everyone in our family Truly look forward to more episodes.
~ Blueflip via Podchaser
Amazing!!! This is so incredibly well done and your thoughtful approach is undoubtedly helping tons of families. What you’re doing truly matters! Your son is lucky to have you and vice versa ;)! Thank you for sharing w us!
~ NickPe13, Apple Podcasts
Helped so much!! I have learned so much and feel so much less alone after listening! Thanks so much!!
~ TSwynacht, Apple Podcasts
Must-Listen! This podcast is a must-listen for those wanting to learn how to best help the LGBTQ teen or young adult in their life. Heather is a thoughtful host who offers great information and support. Such a great podcast with great information!
~ DrMMcNally, Apple Podcasts
Thank you. Exactly what this momma needed.
~ zbkai189, Apple Podcasts
Right on ... so needed. Heather is real, relatable, thoughtful, educated, and inclusive of every teen parent scenario in her talks. I love being able to hear first hand from someone who has gone through the “Valley of Darkness” and come out the other side a better person, informed, and able to help others right where they are.
~ MrsWeiselNMS, Apple Podcast
Eager to get into this. Thank you for clarifying that it's not just for parents. I think anyone involved in raising a child even if that's just part of an extended support community should have access to these resources.
~ Cameron Jones, Castbox
Attn Parents! Listen, absorb, learn, and breathe thru this podcast. So helpful us (child and parents) as we go thru this journey together.
~ Mom or them!, Apple Podcasts
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