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6 Must-read Books for Parents of LGBTQ+ Youth
Has your child just come out to you as gay (or lesbian or bisexual or transgender or non-binary or queer)? We know just Parents of LGBTQ know and feel that moments, Regardless of whether they are 13 or 30, they are likely searching for information. Depending on your degree of shock, you may be seeking support, educational materials, crisis hotlines, or all of the above. Take a moment right now to take a deep breath and know that you are not alone.
So books are definitely my go-to resource and even after five-plus years on our journey and there are a few that I reference over and over again.
#1 Mom, I’m Gay
by Susan Cottrell
When Connor first came out to us I was terrified he was going to hell having been brought up in a conservative Christian home. I needed answers to that question first before I tackled anything else, and Susan Cottrell’s “Mom, I’m Gay” literally saved me. It’s a very tough time for gay moms.
Susan is so relatable. Because she shares the story of her daughter coming out and ultimately being asked to make a decision between her church and her daughter (spoiler alert, she chose her daughter!). Her gentle yet clear guidance transitions beautifully to a straightforward study and explanation of the “clobber verses.” Be forewarned that this is eye-opening and may inspire further research (it did for me!). So it will help you move forward on your journey with relief knowing, no, your child is not going to hell.
So this is a must-read for anyone who has religious concerns. Fair warning, it may have you rethinking your spirituality…in the best way possible!
#2 This is a Book for Parents of Gay Kids
Dannielle Owens Reid & Kristin Russo
This was the second Book for Parents of LGBTQ. I read it when Connor first came out, and it is still at the top of my list of recommended reading on the subject.
It is a perfect primer and does a lovely job of prepping the reader for the next level of information coming their way. It is in a question-and-answer format so you can skip around to find answers to your most pressing questions first. And then circle back to the rest of the awesome information.
Remember, it may not be a question now, but if it’s in this book. I promise it will be a question at some point! Reid and Russon do a phenomenal job of educating parents during those first few months.
#3 How to They/Them
Stuart Getty
How to They/Them is a more recent find. The saying “the only constant is change” applies to language too.
Language evolves, and this little gem helps us understand nonbinary pronouns. The world of gender fluidity is something those of us who are GenX and older seem to struggle with.
Even better? It’s a visual guide! I invite you to grab this handy reference and go through it more than once. I had several “a-ha” moments as I read it! Knowing how to use pronouns respectfully. And knowing how to ask confirmation or clarification questions along the way – is such an incredible tool for any parent and/or ally. You will get the things to read Books for Parents of LGBTQ.
#4 Raising LGBTQ Allies
Chris Tompkins
I had the honor of interviewing Chris Tompkins on my podcast just days after finishing his book and all I can say is, wow!
His book, Raising LGBTQ Allies, is #4 on my must-read list with a subtitle of “A Parent’s Guide to Changing the Messages from the Playground.” Broken into three parts - Awareness, Willingness, Change - Chris weaves his story and valuable lessons in an engaging and educational way. He answers important questions like “how do we talk to our kids?’ and “please help me understand the language!” Most importantly he shares hope.
This one of those books that you will go back to again and again to reference. My copy is tabbed and highlighted with notes written throughout!
#5 Raising My Rainbow – Adventures in Raising a Fabulous, Gender Creative Son
Lori Duron
I came across this book while gathering research for my own book and loved it for so many reasons. Because of Author Lori Duron isn’t kidding about “adventures” – in addition to laughing and crying as I read, I learned so much!
I love this book for anyone who is raising a gender-creative child. It is a beautiful testament to guiding the passions and interests of your child in a very supportive, nurturing way AND the very definition of unconditional love.
#6 The Savvy Ally
Jeannie Gainsburg
This is one of my absolute faves and one I refer to over and over again. This easy-to-understand guidebook is filled with practical tips, relevant information, techniques, and actions for being an ally to LGBTQ+ communities.
Now in it's second edition, this will become a book you refer to over and over.
BONUS - The Language of LGBTQIA+
Heather Hester
I had to add my newly published e-book, The Language of LGBTQIA+. To my knowledge, this is the most complete collection of definitions, explanations of how to use words and phrases, and the “why” of words and phrases that should NEVER be used.
In additional to being comprehensive, it is engaging and direct, lending it to be a favorite resource!
Check it out HERE!
Interested in more book suggestions or other helpful resources?
Head on over to my website and browse through my extensive list. I am constantly adding to and refreshing it so it is also valuable as a bookmark for support.
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