A Guest Blog

By Sid Madge, Meee

Valentine’s Day is near us. And also a question was raised what are the best valentines activities? The concept does not totally convince me. It focuses attention on one day when surely we should make sure that we let our loved one know just how much we care and appreciate them on the other 364 days of the year! if you

Another reason I’m not convinced of its use for anyone except florists, chocolatiers, and Hallmark, is that. It excludes all the people who are not in a relationship. Why should couples get all the fun, chocolates, and flowers?

This article is therefore focused on how to make this Valentine’s Day one to remember for anyone regardless of their relationship status.

Some Ideas:

For me, it’s all about the power of ‘Micro-moments’ – the ability to change our lives at any moment and then to use these tiny manageable interventions to gain positive momentum.

Some of the suggestions below are pulled from my ‘Meee in a Minute’ books, each offering 60 one-minute micro-ideas and insights that can help us to shift our perception in life, family, and at work. Some are new thoughts for Valentine’s Day:

best valentines activities

Foster ‘Hopen’

I decided to start 2021 by inventing a word. Shakespeare did it all the time, so why not! The word is ‘Hopen’. It’s a portmanteau or a word blending the sound and combining the meaning of two other words – in this case, ‘hope’ and ‘open’.

The more I live the more I realize that it is our thinking that defines our lives and how happy or otherwise we are. And the question is there that how I spend my valentine’s day? If we are single and happy being single. Then Valentine’s Day offers a great opportunity for some self-love and appreciation.

If we are single and miserable, or in a relationship and unhappy then it’s more likely to be a painful reminder.

But whichever it is, is hugely influence by what we choose to think about and focus on. We are all just energy and matter, and it’s our thinking (our energy) that propels us forward, or backward, depending on our positivity or negativity.

Hope is a big thing:

So, let’s foster Hopen – hope for what is to come and be open to whatever that might be and our ability to make that meaningful and positive. This is not always easy, life sucks sometimes and Covid is testing our resolve – but hope and openness will always help.

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Know Thyself

Know thyself is one of the Delphic maxims which rings so true. Emotional Intelligence is also dependent on knowing oneself; self-awareness, self-regulation, empathy, social skills, and motivation.

Love with yourself:

Being able to create and maintain a positive relationship always starts with the self. Whether we appreciate it or not, we are always in a relationship – with ourselves first and then with others. When people talk about ‘loving yourself, it’s usually an insult. “Wow, you really love yourself”. But surely, we need to love and appreciate ourselves before anyone else will. Who wants to be with someone who constantly criticizes them? And yet we often do that to ourselves. And this thing will remove what we do in valentine day.

Take a moment to identify three things that you appreciate about yourself. And If you are in a relationship, also your partner. Then remember kindness to others also starts with being kind to yourself. Whether you are in a relationship or not, be kind on Valentine’s Day to yourself and the person you cherish.

Find the Funny

Our environment is full of hidden triggers that shape everything we say and do. These triggers are based on long-forgotten learning or experiences. Have you ever been in a situation where someone has said or done something that made you really angry but then a few minutes later you couldn’t really understand why you were so mad? You were triggered.
Something about that person triggered a reflex response and you acted before you thought.

Everyone has these triggers; they may vary from person to person, but we all have them. Best to laugh them off, in other words, find the funny.

Take a Minute and think:

Take a minute to consider what your triggers might be. Someone who is late for example or someone who interrupts others. When we are aware of our triggers, we gain much more control over them. Through self-feedback, active questions, and scorekeeping, we can learn to build new behaviors that have a positive impact on our lives and the lives of others.

As Victor Borge said, “The shortest distance between two people is laughter”.

Majestic in the Domestic

Find a way to make the menial tasks of life more fun. And this applies to every day, not just Valentine’s Day. We can all make the domestic majestic, and one of the best ways is through music. Create a playlist for your household routines and crank up the volume – being mindful of your neighbors of course. Make the boring fun and get it done. And this can be the best valentines activities.

Some Important things:

True love is never just about the romance and the flowers, it’s much more about the moments in between. The stuff of life. And often that stuff is not that sexy, but it is still life.

We have to love the life we live and live the life we love. And that includes all of life. Take a minute to think of three ways to make the mundane more fun.

Effort is an Indicator of Interest

Think about how much effort you are putting into your relationship. How much effort are you putting into yourself? If the effort is an indicator of interest. How interested are you based on your current effort levels? If it’s low – why?

Are you just tired or do you have a lot on your mind? Take a minute to think of one thing you can do to free up more time for yourself. And the person you love to foster that interest. The effort is also an indicator of the obligation to deal with the obligation. So you can spend your time with the people you really want to be with. Particularly on 14th February.

And these are some best valentines activities.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Sid Madge is the founder of Meee (My Education Employment Enterprise). Which draws on the best creativity and thinking from the worlds of branding, psychology, neuroscience, education, and sociology, to help people achieve extraordinary lives.

To date, Meee has transformed the lives of over 20,000 people from leaders of PLC’s and SME’s to parents, teachers, students, carers, the unemployed, and prison inmates.

Sid Madge is also the author of the ‘Meee in Minute’ series of books. Each offers 60 ways to change your life, work-, or family life in 60 seconds.

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